It seems that in this house, I am the only one with any desire or motivation to do things. Except for dishes. I can get plenty of help with dishes. But as for honey-do lists....that'd fall on me. Even when he says he'd like to do things, it's up to me to get it started and basically do it myself.
This is a major revelation this week. Because I thought if he says he wants to do things, I should just leave room for him to do it and do my own thing. But I have been told that it is an unreasonable expectation that he will do what he says he wants to do without help. And he cannot get started or even ask for help to get started from his own initiative. But maybe, just maybe if I took some initiative, things might get started if I'm lucky.
So today I am very pissed off and will just determine to do it all myself and if he helps a bit, good, but I don't really expect it.
If I had realized this MONTHS or YEARS ago, I could have saved myself quite a bit of frustration.
So this has been yet another way I've looked at things up to now that turns out to be backwards and wrong.
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